Sometimes life can deal you such a horrible hand.It is that moment when you have to choose the correct path to take…
I have this issue that has been weighing heavily on my mind for awhile now. You know the saying, “The Other Woman” or “Side Chick” well I was just that 11 years ago.
It started out as a friendly conversation between he and I. We met online,which then lead to conversations via telephone. He was such the sweet and romantic guy. He would wake me up with a “Good Morning Beautiful” Text every morning. What lady doesn’t like that? Then throughout the Day ,I would receive “I miss you ” text or “Thinking of you” texts. Yes, I was growing deeper and deeper into this guy. After about a month of texting, we turned it into calling one another. The calls were always in the morning late afternoon or really late at night. I should have noticed something then but I was blinded by his romanticism. He was telling me everything that I wanted to hear. I then told myself, that I should back away a little bit because this guy is way too good to be true! besides we lived in different states, he was in Rhode Island and I was in Las Vegas…. I didn’t want to get to deeply involved and then get hurt because we would never be able to see one another. Now what I should have been thinking was, is this guy in a relationship? Is he married? No!!!! that never crossed my mind. Only the distance between us did.
Going further along into the relationship, 9 months to be exact he introduces me to his teenage daughter, (via phone of course). She was a jewel she and I connected instantly! When her dad would punish her or treat her unfairly she would call me and ask me to talk to him. Which I did on many occasions because that’s just how fond I was of her. The more she and I became close the more I was starting to fall deeper in love with her dad. So a year has passed, still in this long distance relationship, but he finally tells me that he loves me and he wants to be with me.Imagine the shock I was in! Is this really happening! Are we really going to be together after a year of talking over the internet and phone? We began making plans to find a place to live together ,since I was already in Vegas I just suggested that he move in with me..He accepted the offer and we were both so excited to finally be together..
2 months before he was to come out here and be with me permanently he needed some money sent to him..He had left that on a text. This was his first time asking for money so I was gonna go ahead and send it because I was just that much in love with him. Of course I had questions though, so I decided to call him, a girl answers the phone, it didn’t sound like his daughter I was close with, so I asked for him by his name. She questioned me with this sarcastic voice for a good 2- 3 minutes… Then finally his daughter ( the one I have been conversing with) gets on the phone and tells me that her dad wasn’t home at the time and that she would tell him that I called. Ok! RED FLAG WARNINGS! finally starting to lay in my head! WTH! what is going on? Was that his girlfriend? his wife? SO naturally I was pissed. When he got home he called me , first thing I did was lighten into him! I gave him such a mouthful, and I finally asked the question,”ARE YOU MARRIED?” he explained to me that he had more than just the daughter I was speaking with, he had 4 more children. I thought for a minute, “so five kids total?”I asked. ” He acknowledge that and began to apologize, saying that he didn’t think I would still want to be with him if I knew he had that many children.Not once did he acknowledge the fact that he was married.. I took a deep breath because I was relieved he wasn’t married or in a relationship,so I thought. Then I explained that I love children I have two of my own and it wouldn’t bother me , so he should have told me in the beginning. He apologized again and we went back to normal. No I never sent the money though, cause I was still kinda pissed. So another month has passed,and another one, then the final month, the month that we are supposed to live together, I get phone call from my daughter(step-daughter I called her) She explained to me that she likes me way too much to keep this lie away from me. Ok , my heart just totally dropped into my shoes! What now? I was thinking to myself. She explained to me that her dad is married, he has 5 other children besides her and her brother( that’s a total of seven children) She gave me the woman’s name and everything and told me to call the house if I didn’t believe her. I was in shocked!!! I didn’t know what to say!She even had her boyfriend, who I became close with as well to get on the phone and verify that she wasn’t lying. I believed her though, because that’s the relationship that we had. She would tell me everything! She even told me that she was pregnant. I thanked her, told her that I still love her and I had to get off the phone. I was livid!! I wanted to tear right into him right then and there. When he called me later that night, I didn’t give him the chance to say anything… I tore into him so much. How could he lie to me! All this time! D0 you know what his excuse was? “I fell so deeply in love with you I thought if I told you, I would lose you.” Hell yeah! Your thoughts would have been accurate! I am not a homewrecker!I don’t date married men!!! so now I’m known as the other woman…………(to be continued)
I know this is a random post, but I have been thinking a lot about this lately.