Can we Stop the Violence Please!

Yesterday Marked my 45th year of life and for that I am so very grateful. I am Blessed in so many ways. Since it was my birthday , I chose not to watch the News at all, because I didn’t want to hear of any negative news. I wanted my Day to be a Day full of Positivity and happiness.

This morning when I woke up, I turned to Channel 5 news (FOX 5) and what immediately pops up! Stabbing,Shooting, Fatal shootings… Oh my God! was all I could say! Everyday I wake up ,turn on the news, there is always shootings deaths, that begin with altercations but end in  Death. What happened to the days when we fought with our hands? Why do we now, end our battles by the barrel of a gun? 635696931539090743-afp-532049401.jpg

Our Youth are dying in these streets. Yes, we post our thoughts and prayers on social media, but honestly we as adults,(as parents) we need to seriously take a look at what is going on with our kids and make major changes. I understand that we as parents have huge workloads, trying to provide for our children, making sure that they have a roof over their heads, clothes on the backs and food to eat. We get stressed but we can not lose sight that these are our babies and our responsibilities.

We have several Recreation Facilities in and around the Las Vegas Valley.. What do these facilities provide? A safe haven for our children to go to after school? or hang out in the afternoon? That is what they are supposed to be here for but sadly, bad things still happen. Just yesterday a fight breaks out at the Hollywood Recreation Center resulting in a 15-year-old losing his life to a bullet.

images-1.jpeg Guns!!!! I am so tired of our babies getting killed by guns… Vegas needs to step up and instead of allowing more silly casinos to be built, why not put up better recreational facilities for our youth? I understand the Casinos will bring about Jobs and bring more money into our economy; but um excuse where does that money go anyway? Shouldnt it go to the schools? It doesn’t.. This is what I mean! Our children are not placed first any more, they are placed on the back burner and it just isn’t right.

I am standing alone for this cause at the moment but I intend to make a difference! I am tired of waking up everyday and seeing death after death after death! Shootings, and stabbings. Fighting over boys, fighting over girls…Why has the coward way out been so glorified! What happened to fighting with just our hands?

“We’re in a state of crisis. Every one of us should be feeling a sense of urgency when we see 15-year-olds dying on our streets,” said Las Vegas Metro police Deputy Chief Jim Owens. (courtesy of Fox5Vegas.com) I honestly couldnt  agree with him more.

Read more: http://www.fox5vegas.com/story/31798622/police-4-shot-1-dead-in-east-las-vegas-incident#ixzz46leOJDXV

Today is a new Day!

Good Morning my beautiful people. Once again we were given the gift of life. God granted us another Day of life. A new Day where we can start over;where we can set our goals and adhere to them.

   Too many times we are faced with so many interruptions in our lives that we forget our goals. We put them to the side and help everyone else with theirs. Which there is absolutely nothing Wrong with that! But we can’t lose focus of our lives.

   Helping others is what we are suppose to do. Be an inspiration, to motivate and assist. Quite honestly,it feels good to help others. When you are shown that warm smile and given that “Thank You” that’s what counts.

    Often times you will not get a thank you or even a smile,the response you get will be”well it’s your job to help” or ” I didn’t ask you to help me” which grinds my gears,but I accept it and walk away. As long as I know that I was able to help someone.

So don’t fret my loves. It’s ok if you didn’t accomplish your goal or to-do list today…there is always tomorrow. We are going to face all kinds of obstacles; that’s to be expected. We must never give up!

  I believe in you! What you set your minds to do, I know you can do it. Believe in yourself! Love yourself.

PEACE & LOVE from ME to YOU
     Ms.Raqci

The Love Coach….(not even)

Good morning! Well look at here, it’s day two of me posting on my blog! Exciting huh? Lol ok ok,let me get straight to what I want to talk about. Men…Men,we love them we hate them; we can’t live with them and we can’t live without them.

Why is it so difficult for a man to express his true feelings for a woman? He will send all of these. Subliminal messages,but can’t say what he feels directly. Is it  macho thing? With him thinking the female might not be as into him as he is to her. I have been wrecking my brain over and over trying to figure out the reasons.
Maybe it’s not for me to figure out. Maybe I should just leave things the way they are and not even try to be Dr.Phil  at this point. If my friends come to me with their relationship issues, I’m not even going to get involved. I have been getting involved for too long now and hell  I have my own issues! I think that if a Couple has been together for long period of time, and they care for one another than maybe the words”I LOVE YOU” don’t have to exists. They care about one another and that’s enough.( Hmmm,not in my book,but ok.)
I have a male friend who calls me quite often, complaining to me about his girl. Now they have been together for almost 2 years. Anyway,he calls me too get my advice  on how to accept the way she is treating him. She doesn’t tell him that she loves him back when he expresses his love to her. She doesn’t allow him to have friends in the opposite sex,when she still has her male friends,and he has to check in with her every hour when he isn’t with her. My first thought was,ok she definitely has some insecurity issues. Maybe she’s been hurt so many times in her life that she has some trust issues as well. I didn’t know where to take this,so I explained to him to just take it day by day with her. Make her feel like she is the only one in your life that matters. Then he asked me,”well if I do all of that. What do I get?” I was caught between a rock and a hard place. I didn’t know what to tell him. So I told him,”hopefully it gets reciprocated,if not maybe it’s time to move on.” Yes that sounds harsh,but why continue to be with someone that just isn’t into you like you are too them.
I am not a psychiatrist,psychologist or an expert in love.. I’m just a friend who has friends that need my help and I try to give my two cents.
Tomorrow I shall have another post to share. Maybe about my own relationships maybe not..we will see..
Until then my lovelies,have an amazing Thursday,bring your A game where ever you are and don’t forget that smile😀

Peace and love from ME to YOU
Ms. Raqci

Prayers

Hey everybody! Yes its been a minute since ive posted on my Blog. I am suppose to be posting on here weekly and I don’t adhere to that. (SMH) I can’t place the blame on anyone or anything else even though I have so many things going on!

What does one do when they can’t get their goals or dreams underway? How can I find my true passion? What is it that I love doing? What can I do that makes me smile and I feel good doing it. Well for starters,I love to sing, when I sing It brings a sense of joy over me a sense of fulfillment. If I am in a bad mood I just listen to a certain song and the mood instantly changes…So , would my passion be  to sing, or to help others in their career? I love to cook. So would my passion  be to have my own catering company, own my own restaurant, be a private chef. These are all things that I need to analyze. I need to learn to make decisions. Fast decisions. Int he business realm you cannot be indecisive. You have to know what it is that you want and be serious about it!

Praying helps…..When people are in a turmoil in their lives and they don’t know what else to do, they PRAY. Pray for strength, pray for knowledge to move forward , pray for wisdom. When you pray GOD listens, but will you listen when GOD answers that prayer? Most people want things to happen instantly. They think ok I prayed now where is my Blessing? well let me be the first to say, It does not happen when you want it too… GODs timing is not our timing. Yes, GOD can turn your situation around overnight, but again its on his time not ours. So all we can do is pray on it and hand it over to GOD. Let him deal with it from there on out. You must of course do your part, but let him be the front-runner and we must remember that no man can provide anything for us, GOD is the one that makes great things happen!!! You can believe this if you want, I am not here to put any religion into your heads, I am not here to force you to believe in GOD (if you dont) I am here to voice my thoughts, share with you everything that I am going through…

I have been through the ringer and back, but Still I smile.

Have a Wonderful Day ! remember to wear a smile not a frown, there are others worse off than you and maybe your smile will brighten their Day.

Peace and Love from Me to YOU!!

 

The Other Woman or His side chick

Sometimes life can deal you such a horrible hand.It is that moment when you have to choose the correct path to take…

I have this issue that has been weighing heavily on my mind for awhile now. You know the saying, “The Other Woman” or “Side Chick” well I  was just that 11 years ago.

It started out as a friendly conversation between  he and I. We met online,which then lead to conversations via telephone. He was such the sweet  and romantic guy. He would wake me up with a “Good Morning Beautiful” Text every morning. What lady doesn’t like that? Then throughout the Day ,I would receive “I miss you ” text or “Thinking of you” texts. Yes, I was growing deeper and deeper into this guy.   After about a month of texting, we turned it into calling one another. The calls were always in the morning late afternoon or really late at night. I should have noticed something then but I was blinded by his romanticism. He was telling me everything that I wanted to hear. I then told myself, that I should back away a little bit because this guy is way too good to be true! besides we lived in different states, he was in Rhode Island and I was in Las Vegas…. I didn’t want to get to deeply involved and then get hurt because we would never be able to see one another. Now what I should have been thinking was, is this guy in a relationship? Is he married? No!!!! that never crossed my mind. Only the distance between us did.

Going further along into the relationship, 9 months to be exact he introduces me to his teenage daughter, (via phone of course). She was a jewel she and I connected instantly! When her dad would punish her or treat her unfairly she would call me and ask me to talk to him. Which I did on many occasions because that’s just how fond I was of her. The more she and I became close the more I was starting to fall deeper in love with her dad. So a year has passed, still in this long distance relationship, but he finally tells me that he loves me and he wants to be with me.Imagine the shock I was in! Is this really happening!  Are we really going to be together after a year of talking over the internet and phone? We began making plans to find a place to live together ,since I was already in Vegas I just suggested that he move in with me..He accepted the offer and we were both so excited to finally be together..

2 months before he was to come out here and be with me permanently he needed some money sent to him..He had left that on a text. This was his first time asking for money so I was gonna go ahead and send it because I was just that much in love with him. Of course I had questions though, so I decided to call him, a girl answers the phone, it didn’t sound like his daughter I was close with, so I asked for him by his name. She questioned me with this sarcastic voice for a good 2- 3 minutes… Then finally his daughter ( the one I have been conversing with) gets on the phone and tells me that her dad wasn’t home at the time and that she would tell him that I called. Ok! RED FLAG WARNINGS! finally starting to lay in my head! WTH! what is going on? Was that his girlfriend? his wife? SO naturally I was pissed.  When he got home he called me , first thing I did was lighten into him! I gave him such a mouthful, and I finally asked the question,”ARE YOU MARRIED?” he explained to me that he had more than just the daughter I was speaking with, he had 4 more children. I thought for a minute, “so five kids total?”I asked. ” He acknowledge that and began to apologize, saying that he didn’t think I would still want to be with him if I knew he had that many children.Not once did he acknowledge the fact that he was married.. I took a deep breath because I was relieved he wasn’t married or in a relationship,so I thought. Then I explained that I love children I have two of my own and it wouldn’t bother me , so he should have told me in the beginning. He apologized again and we went back to normal. No I never sent the money though, cause I was still kinda pissed. So another month has passed,and another one, then the final month, the month that we are supposed to live together, I get phone call from my daughter(step-daughter I called her) She explained to me that she likes me way too much to keep this lie away from me.  Ok , my heart just totally dropped into my shoes! What now? I was thinking to myself. She explained to me that her dad is married, he has 5 other children besides her and her brother( that’s a total of seven children) She gave me the woman’s name and everything and told me to call the house if I didn’t believe her. I was in shocked!!! I didn’t know what to say!She even had her boyfriend, who I became close with as well to get on the phone and verify that she wasn’t lying. I believed her though, because that’s the relationship that we had. She would tell me everything! She even told me that she was pregnant. I thanked her, told her that I still love her and I had to get off the phone. I was livid!! I wanted to tear right into him right then and there. When he called me later that night, I didn’t give him the chance to say anything… I tore into him so much. How could he lie to me! All this time! D0 you know what his excuse was? “I fell so deeply in love with you I thought if I told you, I would lose you.” Hell yeah! Your thoughts would have been accurate! I am not a homewrecker!I don’t date married men!!! so now I’m known as the other woman…………(to be continued)

I know this is a random post, but I have been thinking a lot about this lately.

Ms.Raqci

 

You are Amazing!!

This is the 3rd week in January ,how is it going so far for you? Have you set your goals, do you look at them daily?

I did not make any resolutions this year. I never keep to them, I will follow through with them maybe for the first week of the new year, then I’m done. Mainly because the goals I set for myself would be so far fetched! To follow through with your goals, you must set realistic ones. Like with me, I want to lose weight, but instead of saying(like I use to) my new year resolution is to lose weight. Well, I could lose a pound and be satisfied because I lost weight. You get where I’m going with this? What I should have written down was, I plan on losing 15 pounds by June 1,2016…That way I can look at that goal daily and follow through with it.

I’ve also found(through experience) that when you continue to follow the same path Daily, you are going to stay in the exact same place where you are right now. You will not grow you will not prosper, your life will stay the same. Don’t you want a happy fulfilled life? You must be willing to make a change. Change is inevitable to be honest. Changes occur daily in our lives and we must be willing to accept and adapt with the changes. Open your hearts and your minds, let new experiences enter your world. Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone! Go out and Live!

What is keeping you from achieving your dreams? Your goals? With me it was a number of things; money, knowledge and  fear. Mostly it was fear. I always had in the back of my mind, what are people going to think of my ideas. Will they like the path that I am taking to pursue my dream? Will they like me? It was fear of being accepted. I now realize that, and I now really don’t care what others think of me or my dreams, because I am living my life for me and I am doing what I love, what I want. Stop allowing others to embed into your mind self-loathing. You are beautiful, smart, courageous outgoing, need I go on? You know where I am trying to go with this! Believe in YOU! Love YOURSELF! then when you start realizing your worth, others will take note and begin to love you back. Believe that you can do anything you set your mind on…

Well its time for me to start working on my company’s website a little more. I have been struggling with it, but you know what, I never gave up. I wont give up and it will come to fruition. So my lovelies, go out and be GREAT! Do YOU! Believe in YOU! I already do, believe in YOU! YOU CAN DO IT!!!

Peace and Lots of Love and Belief

from Ms.Raqci to YOU

 

Wishful Thinking…PowerBall HA!

Well, here I am again, sitting in front of my computer working ,which means I didn’t win the Powerball…lol Hell I didn’t even play. You have to play to win right?  I can remember a few years back, when the pot reached I think it was 500 million. I drove 45 minutes to Primm NV/CA, to stand in a line that wrapped itself around the building twice, for over 4 hours and not win anything! I told myself after that, I will never do it again! I mean why couldn’t I even get a free play or 2 dollars ,something?

After speaking with a few people, I realize that the amount of money is what gets them going. A billion dollars can you believe it!. Well yeah after Uncle Sam gets his cut, it wont be a billion, but it will still be more than you already have… I always say. Of course I would be ecstatic winning that amount of money! Who wouldn’t be? I could live the comfortable life that I always wanted, I could start my business ventures much faster, I could help my children with their careers, I could make sure that  my family is set for life. All that is fine and dandy, but my perception of it all, is for a better life, I have to work my butt off. Nothing worth having comes easy in my opinion.So, I don’t mind getting up in the morning, coffee in hand, and start working on something that I love doing.

There was one thing I was very pissed off by, and I cant blame anyone but me…The numbers that came in: 4,8,19,27,34,10, I would have had 5 out of the six numbers!!!! Arrrgh I could kick myself in the butt over and over and over again!!! So by being stubborn and not playing, I missed out on a piece of the jackpot! 4,8,27,34 and 10 are numbers that I always play! Sigh, but oh well….You win some you lose some…Ok ok, let me get back to work before I give myself a headache thinking about that…Hahaha… Have a good one guys!

 

Peace, love and hugs from ME to YOU,

Ms.Raqci